Thursday, May 14, 2009

Out of the Box


Why is it that I feel that something is "wrong" because my child doesn't fit the "mold"? I know that I am not the only mother out there that feels this way! Every child is a world of their own put into a cookie cutter system.
It is so hard some days to fight the system, I feel like just giving in. Why is it that because there is a teacher that can't deal with anything other than robots for students, my daughter had to leave the school? She couldn't stay there...it would have been a disaster.
I am now looking to other options, though they are not totally ideal. No school is perfect..I know that. It's really a matter of what kind of sacrifice are we willing to make. There is a really good school that my older daughter is at but it is located far away, it is a one hour commute each way. Or, go to a closer school where we would be sacrificing other things.
The bottom line is that I don't like feeling this way...having to feel like my daughter doesn't really have many choices because she doesn't fit into their mold.
It is not as if I haven't dealt with this already with some of my other kids, it bothers me more, because I have to deal with this again.
My children count on me and my husband to make these decisions for them, it is so frightening!
We have to be their advocates....that is what keeps me focused to do my best to keep their best interests my focus every day.
Out of the box or in the box? Who cares? In my opinion,it's the child that doesn't fit in the box who becomes an even more unique individual.

3 comments:

  1. WHat mold? THERE IS NO MOLD!! None of our kids fit in a mold, its the really dysfunctional other parents/teachers/doctors who want us to think there is a mold...

    F*CK EM all!!!

    In terms of decisions, my life has taught me you should ALWAYS go with your gut feeling.

    I need a magic wand I think... that would work better for wish Thursdays...

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  2. Well, I can't say I agree with the above comment, but remember Lisa, that Hashem created each of us with specific talents and gifts that He wants us to use. We really shouldn't fit into any mold..nor should we expect others to conform to "our mold."
    This is where tolerance comes in.....we have to respect each other for our differences...and celebrate each others' gifts and talents! Be grateful your daughter has her OWN personality and talents...encourage her to use them for the good of her people and the world!

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  3. Thanks Chava...you always say the right words to encourage me!!

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